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PRE MARRIAGE MINISTRY

Welcome to the Big Valley Grace Premarital Application Process.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!  Our hearts desire is to provide the biblical tools to help you build a “marriage that lasts a lifetime”.

• Vision:  Providing biblical premarital counsel and mentoring to all who desire.
• Mission:
To love God, love people and make disciples through biblically integrated premarital counseling.
• Purpose:
Teaching couples practical tools for a healthy intimate marriage that lasts a lifetime.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Why do we need premarital counseling?

Who are the Premarital Mentors?

How do I get started?

May I pick my mentoring couple?

What can I expect from our time with our mentors?

Where can I download the Premarital & Wedding Packets?

What is the cost and what does it cover?

Can I request to be married by a BVG Pastor?

Can I request to use the church facilities for our wedding?

 

 

Why do we need premarital counseling?

There are several reasons, but the most important  . . . Marriage is intended to be a lifetime commitment.  Building a “lifetime” marriage takes work.  Imagine building a house with only your hands and no hammer, or pouring a foundation with a teaspoon.  Premarital mentoring provides foundational tools so you can build your marriage on a solid foundation.

The Modesto Covenant is an agreement by many of the churches in Modesto and all the Pastors at Big Valley Grace requiring premarital counseling. ( Hyperlink to the Modesto covenant)  Our pastoral staff will not agree to perform your wedding if counseling has not been completed.

What are premarital mentors? Our PM mentors are loving devoted couples, desiring to help you learn how to effectively communicate in marriage. Through their own life experiences and the materials, you will develop tools for a “lifetime” marriage.

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Who are the Premarital Mentors?

Rex and Nancy Cline

Rex & Nancy Cline

 

They say that anniversaries are like birthdays… they’re not only good, but the more you have them the longer you live.  Nancy and I have been enjoying anniversaries for 33 years.  Our hobbies include camping in our RV and going to stage plays.  We also volunteer at the Gallo Center for the Performing Arts several times a month. We both enjoy train rides, especially Rex.


We find joy in spending time with our family.  We have three adult children, Chad, Paige, and Tim; Chad, married to Corinne, and Paige, married to Joey Prescott, live in Modesto, and have children of their own, so joy is spelled “Grandkids.”  Our third child, Tim, is currently in his senior year at the Naval Academy in Annapolis, MD.  He will graduate in May 2010 and continue his education in naval flight school in Pensacola, FL.


During free time, not recess time, you’ll find us playing with our grandsons, Creighton, Landon, and Connor, or volunteering at the church.  Naps are also a great free time activity.  Nancy enjoys a good book while I like to perform community service by picking up litter along Ninth St. Ok, so it just happens to be near some railroad tracks!


Marriage is like a fresh rose, beautiful and aromatic (sort of sounds like romantic, huh), but those thorns are another thing.  Finances were out of control at one time in our marriage, but we learned to live within our means and are now enjoying life without debt.  Over the years, Nancy and I have learned the value of regularly investing in our marriage through dating and weekend get-a-ways.  We are learning to cherish life’s simple pleasures.


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Bill and Gayle Madsen

Bill and Gayle Madsen

Bill and Gayle moved to Modesto in 1980 and found Big Valley Grace right away for our family’s needs. Bill is a Clinical Scientist for DMC and Gayle is a substitute teacher.  We have two children, Nate and Kristina and two grandchildren, Elissa and A.J.

We, together, enjoy golfing, the beach, hiking, biking, kayaking, camping, exercising and skiing. Bill is more the avid golfer and also does race/road cycling, while Gayle likes to knit, make jewelry, make greeting cards, exercise and hang out with her friends.

Using the gifts and talents God has given us, our service to Him has come in many forms.  It all started with Junior High teens, then moved down to Early Childhood ministry, then moved up to young married couples. Here we had found our place and our passion.  With unique training, we then embarked on the premarital ministry.  Our goal for premarital ministry is to equip couple to have a vibrant marriage that will last for a lifetime.  This ministry has improved our own marriage, and helped our daughter in building a strong marriage for her and husband, Tim. Our prayer goal is to see God continue to use us in this ministry, and with the couples that come into our home for mentoring and teaching.

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Rich and Bonnie Sasser

Rich and Bonnie Sasser

Young love and God’s grace is the title of this introduction. I’m Rich Sasser and my wife is Bonnie! I call her the “wife of my youth” since we met when I was 17 and she was 15, and married at 19 & 17 (AHH YOUNG LOVE). We have been married almost 32 years, really for all of our adult lives.

As you might guess, getting married that young came with many challenges! (Especially being married to a guy like me). Soon after we were married, we left home and family and moved to Idaho where I was playing college football and going to school. Living in poverty, no family, not even a church family caused us to start our new relationship in the midst of struggle and conflict.

But our God is faithful! He brought some special Godly people into our lives that helped us learn how to be married. His grace has sustained us and helped us through tons of issues and now we even like each other! I have spent the last 27 years as a Firefighter and Bonnie has done the really hard work of raising our three (now grown) children.

As our children got older, Bonnie has also worked as a store manager and an administrative assistant. We have found that raising our children doesn’t end when they move out so we get the joy of still being part of their lives.  Two of the three are now married so we have been blessed to continue with our mentoring skills without being too intrusive. Bonnie and I enjoy camping and traveling together. We are currently enjoying a bathroom remodel together (you need to see her “mad skills” with a tile saw) and we truly love serving and being part of Christ’s family at Big Valley Grace.

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Lonnie and Elsie Godfrey

We have been married for 54 years. There are many activities we enjoy together but topping the list would be traveling, concerts, camping and fishing.  We have camped and/or traveled in all 50 states & 11 of the Canadian Provinces. (Alaska and British Columbia our favorites leading us to two round trips camping on the Alaska Highway)
We have also lived in Asia (Penang, Malaysia as dormitory parents to junior high boys at an MK school, and in Bangkok, Thailand where we operated a large guest home for Christian workers.)

We get much joy in spending time with our seven children, twelve grand-children and three great grand-daughters. We enjoy gardening and actually our most enjoyable times come from just being together.I (Lonnie) continue to enjoy teaching mathematics at MJC, but I especially enjoy studying the Bible and teaching Bible Studies.

Elsie enjoys reading, browsing magazines and using her gifts of hospitality and encouragement.  (Party anyone??) Probably our initial struggle with finances has been the area most profoundly affected by our growth and maturing. Wanting to provide for our children and being realistic about wants and needs was particularly challenging.Once we developed a realistic budget that we adhered, to a great burden was lifted.
At the outset of our marriage, we were clueless as to what it meant to share life together.  Much of what we learned was through trial and error. (HARD WORK)

However, as we matured as Christians through the reading of God’s word and praying and worshipping together, we learned God’s role for each of us in marriage, and our marriage became a union of “two becoming one”.


Steve & Julia Bordona Biography

Julia and I met while attending Big Valley Grace Church and have been married nearly six years.  We are a blended family with four children and two grandchildren between us from our previous marriages.  Presently, we spend our free time between various sports venues watching our grandchildren, gardening, Julia enjoys genealogy research, reading and writing, while I try to throw in a disc golf game here and there.  Other favorite activities and joys are bicycling, travel and experiencing other cultures, watching our garden bloom and grow, iced tea, a swimming pool, and lounge chairs with a good book!  Like everyone on a marriage journey, God is teaching Julia and me, it is only through humility and selflessness we are able to meet one another’s deepest needs. Experiencing for ourselves the benefits of remarriage counseling, we are very excited and privileged to share the Biblical foundational truths we practice that enable us to live a married life with honesty and integrity.

 

How do I get started?

There is a Pre Marital Application Packet that needs to be completed by both bride and groom. Once the forms and the fee are received by the director of counseling, you will be assigned a mentoring couple.

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May I pick my mentoring couple?

You may request a couple but the final decision is up to the director of Counseling and the availability of the couples based on your wedding date.  The closer your wedding date is to the date that you return the packet, the less flexibility there will be  in mentoring couples.

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What can I expect from our time with our mentors?

Once the completed packet is received and the director of counseling has assigned your mentoring couple, you will receive a call from the PM mentor to set your first appointment.  They will guide you from there.
The mentoring process is approximately 6-8 sessions, (2-3 months) and should be completed at least 2 months prior to your wedding date. Your mentoring couple will lead you through a book/workbook and will administer assessment tests that will help better evaluate your current relationship and future marriage. You will find your mentoring couple to be transparent and honest about their own struggles in marriage. You will spend a great deal of time and money preparing for wedding ceremony, your PM mentors wants to help you plan for your marriage.

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Where can I download the Premarital & Wedding Packets?

• If this is both bride and grooms first marriage, download this file.

• If either the bride or groom have been married before or have children, download this file.

• For the Wedding Packet, download this file.

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What is the cost and what does it cover?

There is a $65 fee per couple that covers materials and testing. A check, payable to Big Valley Grace Community Church must accompany the application.

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Can I request to be married by a BVG Pastor?

Our pastors manage their own schedules. If you want to be married by one of our pastors, you need to contact them directly through our receptionist. 

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Can I request to use the church facilities for our wedding?

If you are interested in using BVG for your wedding please contact our wedding coordinator, Sue Comfort.  No one else can help you reserve the church for your wedding.  Sue has been doing this for years and will be a blessing to you as you plan your wedding at BVG.  You can reach Sue at This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it or call her at 209-604-0948

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If you need additional information, contact Regina Bradley

 
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